The 12 Steps, reimagined for modern recovery.
The traditional 12 steps were a bridge back to life. But what they left out almost killed me. This is the trauma-informed approach I wish I'd had on day one.
The Difference
Why a new approach
Traditional recovery often treats the person suffering as the problem: willful, selfish, defective, full of ego. But addiction grows out of trauma and shame, and shame can't heal with a framework that continues to reinforce it. A body under threat needs safety, not judgment.
The Difference
Why a new approach
Traditional recovery often treats the person suffering as the problem: willful, selfish, defective, full of ego. But addiction grows out of trauma and shame, and shame can't heal with a framework that continues to reinforce it. A body under threat needs safety, not judgment.
The old message
You are powerless
Your thinking is insane
Turn your will over
Take a moral inventory
Admit your wrongs
Remove your defects
Make amends to others
Get out of self and serve
The old message
You are powerless
Your thinking is insane
Turn your will over
Take a moral inventory
Admit your wrongs
Remove your defects
Make amends to others
Get out of self and serve
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The trauma-informed shift
You release what you couldn’t control and reclaim your power over what you can
Your strategies made sense under threat; and now you need to be restored to safety
End the war within and come home to yourself
Make a compassionate inquiry of what happened, what you did to survive, and what you still love
Tell the whole truth, out loud, to someone safe enough to stay
Understand, honor, and release the defenses that once kept you safe
Start with amends to yourself, then repair with others when it’s safe
Return to yourself first, then serve from wholeness
The trauma-informed shift
You release what you couldn’t control and reclaim your power over what you can
Your strategies made sense under threat; and now you need to be restored to safety
End the war within and come home to yourself
Make a compassionate inquiry of what happened, what you did to survive, and what you still love
Tell the whole truth, out loud, to someone safe enough to stay
Understand, honor, and release the defenses that once kept you safe
Start with amends to yourself, then repair with others when it’s safe
Return to yourself first, then serve from wholeness
The trauma-informed shift
You release what you couldn’t control and reclaim your power over what you can
Your strategies made sense under threat; and now you need to be restored to safety
End the war within and come home to yourself
Make a compassionate inquiry of what happened, what you did to survive, and what you still love
Tell the whole truth, out loud, to someone safe enough to stay
Understand, honor, and release the defenses that once kept you safe
Start with amends to yourself, then repair with others when it’s safe
Return to yourself first, then serve from wholeness
This framework keeps what works in the steps (honesty, community, surrender, service) and rebuilds them around what we now know about trauma, shame, and the nervous system.
In through the body
Somatic practices calm the nervous system so change can actually hold.
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In through the body
Somatic practices calm the nervous system so change can actually hold.
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Into the mind
Parts work and compassionate inquiry reframe old beliefs and reintegrate protective parts.
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Into the mind
Parts work and compassionate inquiry reframe old beliefs and reintegrate protective parts.
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Into a new identity
Daily, identity-level action toward someone who lives from radical self-acceptance and shameless self-expression
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Into a new identity
Daily, identity-level action toward someone who lives from radical self-acceptance and shameless self-expression
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For chemical and behavioral addictions Alcohol and drugs, and also work, food, relationships, sex, scrolling, perfectionism, and people pleasing. Different behaviors, same root.
Who is it for
For anyone who's tired of running from themselves.
You're in early sobriety and the feelings are stronger than ever.
You've been sober for years but still feel stuck, anxious, disconnected or ashamed.
Your addiction doesn't come in a bottle: instead, it looks like work, food, relationships, scrolling, pleasing, performing or perfecting.
The traditional 12 step rooms helped, but something essential was missing.
The meetings give you community but something still feels "off"
You've never set foot in a meeting, but you know something has to change.
Ways to work together
Recovery support built around you
Choose from supportive, trauma-informed approaches designed to meet you where you are.
The Recovery Room online
Weekly meetings, live coaching, somatic practices, and a community of more than 400 people who get it.
Workshops & Classes
Somatic dance, yoga, reset, meditation and breath work, a modern and trauma-informed framework, studio and online.
You stopped. Now let's heal what drove the behavior in the first place.
You stopped. Now let's heal what drove the behavior in the first place.